Thanks @JaneTennison1. He does have a PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy and has passed to licensing board, so he does have some schooling behind him. But he is definitely approaching this from a religious standpoint. Which I've never really tried to do before so I'm trying to give it a go, to see if it helps the SH because frankly, nothing has. He says he wants to trigger for Christianity I'm not sure how to do that. He wants me to and I'm really trying but I also think I'm really failing. It's complicated. I think he does care a lot about me. But I am angry with him for him unilaterally deciding that I can't SH to get through my appointment. It's not like we came together an decided it. It's just "You can't do this!" And then after my appointment last night I called a friend and I had told her about the recent SH, last weekend's and the weekend's before that, and she was like, why didn't you come to me? That hurts me. And I just felt like crap. I'm trying to be more open about my SH but this is also the same friend who says she doesn't understand it. So I'm struggling today and I want to SH and I know that I can't and it's miserable feeling. Thanks for the care and support though, Couchies, you all rock! Hugs Kit