I was going to say but forgot, the trauma bond is the wrong kind of "twinship" IMO, for progress and development. It can feel good in the moment, but it does little else except validating and reinforcing an already negative pattern. If we are just looking for sympathy/empathy, maybe fine. But if we want solutions and to get out, absolutely not, in my view. I never like to commiserate long. This is why I don't like to establish/keep significant relationships with people who struggle with the same issues as myself but still in the struggle state and haven't found a way out. I know this is often not nice of me, but my preference that I find healthier for me.