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Originally Posted by Franner
Thanks for your advice, Mrpain. Befriending people has always been like rocket science to me, so it's no surprise the age makes me feel much more anxious. But after reading what you wrote, especially the fact that elders have way more experience to share I'm definitively convinced.
However, I honestly don't know how to start. Do you think asking him how that cement panels project of his is going is a good way to take the first step?
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Yes absolutely in terms of socialising its an "ice breaker" he loves doing it and you have an intrest .
My mom taught me to look for "common ground " anything you ha can be used to find other things you may share an intrest in ,everything from bridges to relationships need a foundation to build on ,in this case his cement work is common ground.
The same applies to all friends ,lovers spouses etc.
You meet people where ever they are ,and build up from there , i have a friend I met in the produce aisle buying eggplant (I love to cook, the y wanted to expand there knowledge ,we started with the humble 50 ways to cook eggplant ) you can literaly build off anything,I have other friends I mer over cars,radios, my dog,. Don't be shy or timid " the early bird gets the worm " ,i don't suggest eating works however enjoying making friends and trying to share your life is an active sport .life isn't a spectator sport and time waits for no man or woman , the earlier you start the better your skills , the more comfortable you become doing it.
I have an "aunt " when my mom was 7she lived next door , they both grew up went to college became psychologist 's and remained friends ,when my mom adopted me she became part of my family , my mom died 10 years ago, my aunt is 83 and we remain friends/family .