i am very sorry this happened to you, but don't beat yourself up. he was the stupid one, not you. you are a good person, that believed what he said, there is no fault in that.

it happened to me, but i fell for the "we are in the process of seperating" two years later, with a broken heart and alot of egg on my face, i finally realized that he was just getting his cake and eating it too.

don't beat yourself up, you did everything right, and listened to your radar. good for you!

take care,
grace