I'm sorry, Kit. That sounds unfair to me. Pastor T thinks he's given you an alternative, but if it's not an alternative that works for you, I would question whether it is really an alternative. P was big on containment: 'When you think about "this issue", tell yourself I have an appointment with that on Tuesday.' Never worked for me, because if I could put it away and not think about it again, I would not be in therapy. Selfishly, I would hope that you would be able to come to a solution that wouldn't involve hurting yourself, but...that's just me. HUGS