First, I just want to say Sunny-- this post isn't directed at you... it's a general response.

I get angry when my T goes-- I think you have to look at the intellectual vs. the emotional. Have you ever been abandoned before? Chances are if you have abandonment issues, then you will be angry because of that. That pattern will repeat with others you are close to and it's totally normal to feel anger when they leave. Sometimes i intellectualize what I'm going through with my T in order not to feel. I will say, "Well since I understand why he's going away and he deserves a vacation, then why would I be mad?" Then I realized (with T's help) that I was totally ********ting myself. Yeah, it's one thing to *know* something, but it's a whole other to *feel* it.