This may be my catholic background talking, but to me, there is no difference between what a priest says and what Jesus says. And frankly, the biggest problem i have with what religions say is political. I mean like their whole message is political and they forgot Jesus.

Anyway yeah i think you are barking up the wrong tree, focussing attn on the pastor and his methods. Religion is either a cause of your issues or a diversion from addressing them. Yeah cuz i know everything of course.

But i do like what @@ said about "can not" and addressing the symptom, not the problem.