I fear anger in others, and also in myself. Recently, I have become *deeply* angry when minor things happened between a friend and me. Of course, this small thing meant something larger to me, but I knew that that was *my* problem and not theirs to deal with at that moment. Nevertheless, I still felt such a strong anger that it needed to come out. This is new to me and really difficult to navigate as I am trying to find my way around anger.
When others are angry, I feel very scared and my response is to suppress all my own thoughts and feelings, and to go along with whatever view they have. (This used to be the case, anyway - I think I am making some sort of progress on this).
I am currently trying to unlearn suppressing my own anger, which according to my T is something I do automatically. Whether it is anger or something else, we do not yet know, but at least I am zoning out supposedly because I feel something I have learned is not allowed. It's incredibly frustrating - she keeps asking what I feel, when all I feel is nothing at all. I hope it will help, but I feel like I am hitting a wall.
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