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Originally Posted by Blueskyx
Do you mean somebody trying to get higher on a social/work ladder in an unnatural way? I think it's about creating an illusion for themselves, some may also believe it will cause people to treat them better. I'm not familiar with something like that, but I've seen people in positions who were doing what they did probable more for the idea of being someone (influential, important or special) than providing quality work/support.
For your second question, depens a bit on what kind of behavior they have, but I'd say avoid them when it comes to interacting with them if and when possible, act normal, professional, neutral, unemotional, stay yourself, like nothing is going on.
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Thank you for your reply.
Much appreciated it.
I have a real example.
I was at this sports club. I offer to be socail media worker. So I post photos I taken of the club and post them on Facebook page. Film when they did competitions and made a cool music video out of it.
Also announced competitions or what's happening in the club.
I did cause my therapist encouraged to expose myself into working again. But it was for free so there less pressure with that.
But then this girl came into the club with a friend..
On the frist she brought cookies and handed them to everyone. I thought at frist she brought them because just a snack to eat for herself and she wants to share them.
But then following week she brought more cookies, and then other week and month after month.
When we had competitions she would just talk about bringing cookies. Or joke how she works at a retail store and make cookies for them too.
Eventually she starting dating the captain.
The captain had controlling issues. I even spoke to my therapist about it and show her the messages back to back between myself and him. She even said he has controlling issues.
He would tell me how Facebook page should be.
Instead of trusting me.
He was at one point discussing how the other staff members dont communicate. How he wanted the cookie girl to take over this other person president role.
At one point the coach and president didnt want captain to do the end of year fencing competition. Because it was childish last year that the older fencers left.
The captain was worried that going tona restuarant would be bad for young teenagers cause there is "drinking" but it's a restaurant.
The captain got so upset he didnt help in the competition. Or went.
He started ignoring me and stopped talking to me..
It affected me because I experience socail anxiety.
Well I thought to leave and the cookie girl was saying I can do your job and you can do the photos.
Whenever I try to talk to her about how we are gonna work. She didnt want to discussed it.
Eventually they end up having a meeting. I didnt went. How cookie girl was trying to get funding to the fencing club through council.
How one rule was how to take photos ..
I thought well this is getting political correct, and kill creativity.
So I left.
They never once message me only if they wanted some thing.
But that's what happened.
I felt the captain and cookie girl were working together to get rid of me.