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Default Nov 14, 2019 at 10:53 AM
 
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Originally Posted by Betty_Banana View Post
There's really not much out there about life after full integration.There's info about integration and about the process but not much about life afterwards.

Or have I just overlooked all of it or haven't searched in the right places?
my opinion a little of both...

1, you are right there is not much out there.....
2. yes you might not be searching in the right place..

you know how I am always putting in my posts that the answers are all inside you and to contact ones own treatment providers....

that's where you will find what you need for after integration...

you have posted many times that you are integrated. So just playing the other side of the coin to maybe jog your creativity for a moment... how have you been managing since being integrated so many months or years ago?

it is those things that will work for you after integration....

for example....

you read my integration thread... so you know the process I went through and how my treatment providers and I addressed my having DID and what all aspects of the disorder is...

After integration this all came into play and still does....

I frequently post that my alters are still there just in a different way....

the reason I word it that way is because for me its not like they never existed...

my alters didn't leave, die or no longer exist. for if that happened I would not be here. the proof that they are still here is in the fact that I can feel a full range of emotions now, I can do things with full awareness of doing them when I couldn't before when I was not integrated.

when it rains sometimes I go out with my umbrella and think hi rainy thank you for all that you did for me when I was unable to do those things for myself. I can feel the things that used to be just hers but is now mine to feel.

Betty if you are integrated your alters still exist just in a different way. the proof of their existance is your existence. you are here able to post so obviously no alters of yours have died, because you have not died.

where to look for after integration info... inside you and to your treatment provider...

example if your after integration problem is understanding emotions, with your treatment providers help you can research things like "emotions" what are emotions, how to express emotions.... if your after integration problem is loneliness because you no longer hear the others then you and your treatment provider can research "lonliness" how to live after DID,

life after integration is all about learning how to manage ones own bills, banking account, learning how to cook and clean on your own, learning how to recognize emotions, triggers, problems …. inside your self now that those things are no longer dissociated...

one of my siblings summed my after integration life in a great way....As I watch you going through life after integration its like seeing you and the world in fresh eyes, the wonder, the innocence, the learning, like a baby learns to walk first by learning how to roll over, push up on to hands and knees, pull one self up along the furniture and venturing out one step at a time, so are you.

after integration there was so much therapy work, physical work, .. in some respects being integrated actually is harder and more traumatizing and frankly for some gathers more attention from some of my treatment providers than not being integrated did.

example when I wasn't integrated I wasn't feeling angry, wasn't feeling suicidal and rarely self harmed. why because my DID was dissociative / trigger related. any time I encountered a trigger the alter whos job was to handle that trigger took control and handled it. I didn't have to self harm, and all that to ease the pressures, escape the problems.

After integration bam emotions every which way, feeling my life was out of control, suicidal, needing to find ways to escape meant self injury.... because the alters were not handling the triggers any more. I wasn't dissociating to that extreme any more and had to learn how to handle everything with out the use of dissociation.

life after integration is one heck of a ball of melted wax called grounding, and learning about those things that most children, teens and adults normally learn about in life... even now I am constantly calling my treatment provider and saying ok new problem how do I ……. I need your help with this ….

my point betty is look at your own life, find your triggers, find your emotions, find your way through being self caring, self nurturing... like my treatment provider told me....if your friends and family came to you with this problem what would you tell them... how would you teach them to find their triggers, use grounding, learn what emotions are, learn how to take care of their basic needs and wants...that's life after integration. just like before integration you had a problem and either reached solutions to your problem or you contacted your treatment provider.

that's how I have been finding my way through this giant ball of wax that Im trying to mold into a beautiful candle named life.

another tip reread your past posts. you have shared many examples of your life after integration that can help you in the hard times. sometimes when I need help with my post integration issues I come to psych central and read my past posts, they sometimes jog my brain into creativity and action where my post integration issues are concerned.
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