Same (both in agreeing with Xyn and what some T's have done). And my T was a bit freaked out by a few things I saw or found, particularly the fact that I knew where he was when he was away once because it was a public event and he was listed as a participant (it's a bit more complicated than that--I had reason to think he was there). He even seemed freaked out once when I referenced what area of the state he was from. I was like, "Uh, it's listed on the front page of your professional website: 'I grew up in [location.'" He later checked and said I was right and apologized for his reaction.

I've since learned just not to share what I find...well, aside from the time when his wife posted something in a Facebook group I'm in (I was a member of it before I started seeing him and had no idea his wife was in it). He appreciated my telling him, and she promptly left the group. He also thanked me for not looking through her past posts (it was a parenting group for certain issues). I was like, 'Uh...actually I did look at some of them, sorry." But he said with it being a group that I was in, I didn't do anything wrong.


Meanwhile, my former marriage counselor (I was extremely attached to him) was very accepting of everything I found about him online, even his wife's Facebook page. But he also asked me not to look around for any more information on her (at the time, I knew she was critically ill--long story--and I think there was another page on FB with updates on her health that he didn't want me to see--I didn't find that though). He was also understanding when I figured out she'd passed away (got a weird sense about things and found her obituary), though he'd said he hadn't intended to tell us about that.


I hope your T responds positively and doesn't terminate you. She may have just wanted to discuss your reaction to learning this information in person. It could be something you would have found out anyway, if she ended up taking some parental leave after the baby is born. And if she was the pregnant one in the relationship, well, obviously, you'd eventually learn that. And I hope she responds to your text so you'll have some sense before you walk in there tomorrow.