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Old Nov 14, 2019, 06:02 PM
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Hi!

Welcome to the Bipolar forum at PC!

I hope you will find the information and the support you may be seeking.
I am so glad to see you have jumped in and have started a thread! Fantastic!

Both me and my H carry a dx of BPII; yet, our experiences with BP are very different. I am more disabled by it; yet, I am always working with a pdoc, so it seems I am more stable. He, on the other hand, get more impulsvie and, sometimes, wreckless and does not work closely with a pdoc/therapist.

When he is not doing as well as possible, he tends to be angry and there is no stopping him from whatever he has decided he will do.
I don't experience anything like that. It may also be a difference in our personalities.

That said, I will tell you that my H has had a couple of major episodes of planning to leave. In both instances, he was psychotic and quite confused. He can beome psychotic and delusional. (I am not sure as to why he has a BPII dx as opposed to a BPI dx. He does fine in between these episodes.) It tends to last about a month or so. Interestingly, he never gets himself packed up and out the door. He seems too disorganized to do so. If/when he will agree to see the pdoc, he stabilizes relatively quickly and he drops his need to leave, etc. If/when he starts the "leaving " bit, I know he is beginning another episode...and/or is already unwell.

That said, we are going through a divorce as I write. He has had a lot of problems with not just BP, but with severe anxiety, and with a personality style which makes him difficult to deal with. He has developed absolutely no insight into his issues, as he will not participate in therapy. He has been unable to remain "marriage material." He might still be here stammering and making threats if I had not "helped him out the door" this time.

He can decide what type of a life he wants. Me, too. I honestly think we are in almost totally different worlds at this point in our lives.

Sometimes, after a few destructive and very hurtful episodes, there is no turning back.

I wish you well!
I hope to see you around PC!.
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