I don't like how he seems to be pathologising need. My T isn't perfect but she frames it as crutches and broken legs. "Neediness" often points to unmet needs. She definitely hasn't met every single need, but the expression of those needs on my part isn't wrong or a monster (whatever the size). If I were to email too much for example, we'll discuss about why and how we can find something sustainable... But that's not because my needy behaviours are bad, or that needs are bad.