i agree with the ladies above. Can you find pics of dad and remember him in that way? Is your mom up to telling you about the day you were born etc? Your friends may think that it is not okay to speak of your friend. It is so healthy to remember him outloud together. You are not hurting them by saying, hey remember when he did this when we were 11? That was so funny. That kind of stuff can be so healing. I wish you luck and by the way, we would like to hear all about your friend and whatever you remember about dad.