No, not at all. My family is so laid back in many ways, that it wouldn't. Plus, so many people in my family have or have been affected by the disorder for so long that it became "normalized" in certain ways. We allow each other to get away with a lot more than some of us might allow outsiders to get away with.

Other than being the picked upon little sister when I was a kid, my siblings and I don't really get angry at each other in any significant way. None of us are really grudge holders. We can yell at each other about things, but the anger usually ends in less than 24 hours. That's sort of how it works with me and my husband, too. That's not to say we don't have tempers. We do, but the anger is usually directed at things or situations and not people. When I've expressed anger about my dad, it's usually only because I love him and I am upset by his hurting himself.

When I was extremely ill, it made my husband ill. It wasn't that I did anything wrong. Or even when my behavior was bad because of my bipolar irritability, he kind of knew what was going on. Often irritability was born from stress, too. Of course not everyone recognized that in my life, but my family did. It is sad when bipolar behavior (in my view sometimes separate from intentional behavior) ruins relationships.