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Originally Posted by whatever2013
Having a great time today with @ MarcusAurelius and just want to be wild wild wild!!! Alcohol is out as i don't like it. Drugs? I just finished an ep of having trouble making contact with reality so a big no. All i can think of to do is go to my mental health drop-in art studio afternoon tomorrow. At least there will be people there willing to have fun tho it will be a structured afternoon but maybe i can let off some energy and have some yuks.
I went to OA tonight and i think that is the last time. I "shared" for the first time and "spoke my truth" and got about what i expected back which was nothing. I don't like sharing in support groups. It does nothing for me and just frustrates me. I don't know what people get out of it. I can stay at home and say those things to my wall and it's the same experience.
It's actually harmful for me to "share" in support groups because it makes me feel ignored and invisible and i already have a lot of pain around those feelings as it is. I don't need more evidence that no one hears me and that no one sees me. Those people are all dull anyways. |
I don’t think I’ve had a fun Friday night as this in a long time, thanks for being part of it @
whatever2013! I definitely get where you are coming from with support groups. My experiences with support groups have bee similar. It’s nice to have input and know you’re not alone, but in the end to receive the therapeutic benefit, you have to feel heard and like an important part of the group. Support groups are set up with good intentions, but people often fall into bad habits. It reminds me a lot of when I was teaching, you’d think the kids you teach would be the ones with petty problems and gossip spreading… well guess again. Support groups are kind of the same way – people are there for themselves (not necessarily a bad thing) but forget they are there to support others with their experience, just as they look for support. Instead you get cliques and those whose problems are much worse than yours or those who look down on you for your own shortcomings. They never really are a level playing field that is a true safe space… in
my experience. Other may have had some wonderful ones.
My point being don’t feel bad about the meeting. You deserve quality support and they just weren’t bringing it to the table for you. While I can’t relate well with OA, as a general part of a community that is supportive and caring, I’m always here to listen just like many others here! We may not be experts or share the experiences, but we are great listeners and care.
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