Actually you are right about those traits being basic personality traits and yes, we all have some version of them.

I agree with a lot of what you wrote in your post. Friendships wax and wane and my therapist is always trying to get me to see that they have a beginning, middle and end. Of course, I'm mad at my T at the moment but he is right about some things.

Histrionic? Well, do you all remember Diane Downs the one back in the 80's who shot her three kids for a boyfriend. Farrah Fawcett played her on a life time movie. She is described as being Histrionic although, I would say a very extreme Histrionic.

From what I've read, histrionics are all about "me, me, me"...I have some of those traits