Incidentally, NP, I think I get what you mean by the call being tangible proof of care. Lots of my emotional morass with No. 3 was that I’d just left an abusive relationship where the person who should have cared about me didn’t. And 3 offered very tangible proof of care. It ended up backfiring, of course, mostly her responsibility, some mine, some just the circumstances. But when you’re coming off an abusive relationship it’s like you need to know someone cares, and not someone you already know cares, like a family member or friend.