Since i was the one who mentioned the ER - I meant, in the beginning, i thought he was calling you to keep you safe on the weekends. You wrote here of trips to the woods, etc. For him to have said he was unavailable on weekends would have been inappropriate, but something besides regular calls should have been implemented. I think it just created a different wound.

Imo, i would have found weekend calls from my t incredibly intrusive, even tho there have been times i soooooo wished for them. It TOTALLY changes the idk "flavor?" of the weekend. You are NEVER on your own. You are always under his skirt! (Its an italian expression.)

I would call the past year not a wash, as you did stay afloat, but the feelings and issues and impulses that were there a year ago are still here now. I say surprise him and tell him you realize that.

I dont understand what you two are "arguing" about, that you say he says you say etc - maybe it would help if you clarified that? Idk.