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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins
I think they mean "clients expect us to be perfect for them [each individual client]" and they can't be all things to all people. I read a great deal of "my therapist should know me by now," "my therapist knows how I would react," etc. That's pretty common discussion on this forum. The thing is, they aren't going to always read, ahead of time, how a client will possibly react to something, and that is where clients get shaken up because clients expect them to know them internally. But they aren't going to be able to do that with great accuracy because, the reality is we can't predict how we, ourselves, will react to things either.
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The problem I see is that therapists want to have it both ways. They set the game up up but don't take any responsibility. Therapists tell clients they know, understand, and are macro-watching (literally what the second one said to me) -and then defensively claim they are not perfect when they fail to live up to their own billing. I always found it fun to watch the woman become defensive and deny it - they are indeed not only not perfect, but not nearly as good as they like to think they are. I think their appearances of understanding are mostly the equivalent of parlor tricks. They, of course do not, but they have learned a lot of ways of making it appear as though they do - which they believe as well as the client sometimes- and they want the client to believe it.