Hi almedafan, we each have our own experiences in therapy and what works in mine may not be what will be your own best scenario. But here is my thoughts.

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Is it wrong for me to expect the same day/time from my T?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I don't think it is a right or wrong issue. How does your T usually schedule his clients? Does he do standing appointments? If so, then can you tell him your desire to have a standing appointment? I don't think the office manager will necessarily be privy to talks on this subject between you and your T, so don't necessarily expect him/her to know. I used to have a standing appointment with my T and it felt great! I had never had that before, as my previous T and I didn't schedule that way. When my current T gave me a standing appointment, it made me feel really good, like my regular appointments and progress were so important to him, that he would block out this regular time for me indefinitely. But we aren't doing regular appointments anymore. Now I just schedule one at a time, a week in advance and try to fit in to whatever he has left at that time (I usually have about 3 choices.) I liked it the other way better, but this way is fine too. If I really want a regular appointment, I can always ask him, but I'm not. I have something else going on inside about that, I think that I keep expecting myself to change to only every other week. But I'm not. But I'm reluctant to admit to myself that I am not ready to go to every other week yet. So I don't ask for the regular appointments. Ha, ha, conflicted! T lets me call the shots. He would never suggest I have a standing appointment, but I bet he would give me one again if I asked. Therapy cracks me up sometimes.

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He's acknowledged that he knows I don't feel safe but has never asked me what I need to feel safe.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">My T has asked me a number of times, "what can I do to make it safe for you here?" so this is a concern of his. I really like when he asks this . Do you know how you would answer if your T did ask you that question? If he is not going to ask, can you bring it up? I'm sorry this is so hard right now.

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He's also said I could call to give him an update on my health situation so I did that this morning...guess what? Silence!

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Ouch! I hope you can mention that to him and get clarification on if he really meant it was OK to call him about your health.

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How much consistency is okay to expect? I struggle with this because I wonder if I am ... asking for things he can't or won't give?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I hope you can have this discussion with him and learn the answers so you can know what he can or can't give. It is really reassuring to know the boundaries (even if you don't like them) so you aren't left wondering what you can and can't expect.

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Am I wrong to expect any of this?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I don't think there's a right or a wrong. I just think you need clarity, and a direct discussion of this will help you immensely.