Thank you all for your responses. I have tried talking to him but all he says is “he hates talking about issues “ or just says I do t know to every question I ask him. The time he spends with me he focuses on me, he always texts or calls several times every day if we don’t see each other is very lovey Dovey and sweet ( but sex is another issue, he barely wants it like once a year now, and same as the mother issue, holiday issues, there’s no response, explanation etc from him regardless of how i state my concerns, what questions I ask etc. ) we dated for awhile in high school and I was good friends with his sister back then, we reconnected about 12 years ago and been together ten and a half now ) but yes he is not respecting me or our relationship at all, he is prioritizing his childhood family and his mother and putting her first and he says flat out he is. He just tells me to accept it, that’s what I’m having a hard time doing. 😕