I think the thing that holds you back sometimes is shown in your statement “I would mess something up” . I always feel bad when I hear those kind of comments becuase what is “messing up”, some other persons opinion? I don’t understand Why their opinion would be better then yours, or who decides what defines messing up etc. I don’t think there’s any way to mess up when you’re Doing nice to others out of genuine love and concern. I just don’t think messing up in that situation can even exist. You don’t mess up even if another person doesn’t need or like some thing you’re doing or giving, it’s never a “mess up!” Genuine concern and trying to bring joy to others is always a winner!