Intellectually, I think it depends on when you experienced abandonment in your life and how you see your T. For example, I grew up in foster care so was abandoned by original parents at young age and then constantly until I turned 18. I see my T as a parent and react in the transferance as if T were my parent.

This draws the anger out. But most of it is fear....fear of being left alone and not being taken care of.
I read an article that stated that most clients who have an extreme reaction to T vacation are realing feeling a loss of care.

Now, do I go into T and have this intellectual discussion. No, I go in and behave like a 2-year old because I can't put intellect with emotion. Do I want to act like a 2-year old.....not sure. I obviously need to get something from that behavior and T's reaction.

Just my 2 cents....