Oh my goodness
Your have 247 to many things going on all at once
I’m so glad your brother is doing well. Yes he will need to make some lifestyle changes.
I’m thinking honestly your trip to Florida might be a good thing , you will get a break from taking your dad back and forth.
Honestly I’m pretty shocked that they offer alcohol. Do you think your father will be able to refrain? Such a temptation it will be. If the director doesn’t like you that’s just fine.
Please continue with self care, you are going to need it