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Nov 19, 2019, 02:33 PM
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Originally Posted by Lilly2
I have a hard time building trust, and sometimes I am too trusting (even though inside I don't trust). It's weird.
I think building trust has a lot to do with boundaries. Too loose of boundaries and you trust everyone (e.g., you say yes when you don't want to, and you may still not trust, but you act like you trust), and too rigid of boundaries and you trust no one (e.g., isolating yourself from friends, other relationships, etc.). There are times when it is okay to have loose or rigid boundaries, but on the whole, "flexible" boundaries (somewhere in between loose and rigid) is ideal.
Setting boundaries and finding safety in your voice and your boundaries is a good starting place. You can find tips online, through a google search, or from a therapist. Additional treatments by a therapist might also help with trust issues.
Learning about trust and boundaries is very different from actually being able to do it. It's a challenging road, but doable.
I don't have the good answers for this, but others on PC may. I hope this helps a little. Good post! 
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Good post.
There aren't many I trust irl.
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