[QUOTE=sarahsweets;6691526][FONT="Comic Sans MS"][COLOR="Indigo"][SIZE="3"]Hey @Britedark:
Wow the entire relationship screams toxic and if you are not careful, codependent-and I do not mean any offense by that.


Thank you so much for giving your time to me. When I read your reply I realized I agreed with most of it. Reading it all plainly in black and white was very impactful.

I am aware that I need to go a long way towards assertive communication, so the pointers you gave to me about how to better communicate with my sister were really helpful. I will try my best to put them into practice. Dunno how successful I'll be, though. But I'll definitely try.

To answer your question about our mother, she is super sweet to my sister and pampers her all the time. My sister claims that if she is not allowed to eat and sleep and buy nice things as she pleases, she will go into major depression. When my mom refuses to spend money on her, she replies with very rude and cutting remarks. But instead of saying anything to my sister, my mom complains to me endlessly about how she is being bled dry. I want to stay out of this drama but somehow I get sucked in (because I love them very much and I am really worried about all of them).

I will definitely read your link on codependency. I can see that our situation is not healthy, but I can't tell exactly what is wrong. Perhaps it is codependency?

I hope you are now happy and in good health. Fighting any addiction is never easy and I really pray and root for your success. Thank you once again for your kindness. And please don't worry, I did not find any part of your reply offensive.