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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Yeah, seen D 3 times, me and H twice. I guess I just worry she doesn't have the right skill set to work with her. She tends to seem unsure of herself. Hesitant in choosing her words (H noticed this as well). And I think I'm a little bothered that she used "autistic" in reference to D (today and some before), but I know that's a controversial topic in the autism community, what terms to use. Dr. T will always just say "on the spectrum" or maybe has a couple times referred to "her autism" but more in the sense of "with her autism, she has x to deal with." So maybe I'm just used to that... I don't know. It sort of feels like "disabled person" vs. "person with disability" to me.
ETA: I think ex-MC also always used terms like "on the spectrum." I know he worked with some teens and adults who are.
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I think we used all iterations of person-with-autism labels to avoid calling my d "autistic" because we wanted to make sure to use respectful person-first non-labeling language.
Guess how she identifies herself?
No biggie. I am just glad she landed on a way to refer to her way of being that she is comfortable with.
Hugs, LT. I think there's just no one right answer when it comes to disability labels, and what's most important is whether the t can be helpful to your d. If you have a preferred way you'd like her to refer to your d's autism, you could probably ask her...or approach it sideways by starting a discussion about the different ways to refer to people who've been diagnosed with autism and see what the t's reasoning and perspective is.