Thank you so much for your message and kind words.

I think that active listening on your part can help her. But don’t think in terms of you being the one who provides her with “the solution”. Only she can straighten out her life, you must not feel charged with that responsibility.

I think she could benefit from seeing a therapist—as could you, in my opinion, to help you figure out day-to-day how to help both her and yourself. Family therapy could also be very worthwhile if several family members were willing to attend.

But even if therapy is not possible, I definitely think that you can make a positive contribution through what we discussed above.