I saw my T today after some time inpatient. I'm having very strong feelings for him. We are both married and I'm a bit older than he is. If I disclose how I feel I'm afraid he'll be disgusted and grossed out and want to get rid of me. He disclosed his counter transference toward me (he said he feels protective of my and "wants to save me".) My attraction to him isn't just sexual. He's brilliant and he has said he finds talking with me very stimulating. We both are interested in different psychiatric treatments and sometimes we discuss them. He has often told me I'm very intelligent.
I want him to know how I feel but being older than him might seem gross to him. Is it better to be honest and deal with the consequences? Is just like to go for coffee and discuss psychology.