An apology would be nice, but with time that's now elapsed and what I've been told by my mother, that isn't going to happen.

I don't want to be in a toxic environment, frightened to say or do anything that would cause everything to kick off again. Previous years experiences have not been enjoyable. Sister-in-law shouting at my mother and me because we haven't reacted instantly to her dictating attitude. I've appreciated being invited there, but always seems to come with conditions attached.

Rather than apologise they've suggested my mother spends Christmas Day with me, then Boxing Day with them. This is cause of latest problem as I don't agree with this arrangement. Call me harsh but appreciate my mother is stuck in the middle. However, the apology is only way to move this on.