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Originally Posted by Bcrawford
I have a friend, despite authorities, banks and friends telling her, refuses to believe she is being scammed. Went with her to Dr., basically told, "No magic pill to fix this, besides patient appears to be perfectly cognizant, she will stop when she's had enough, ie... broke". Friend says, "I have a rite to "spend" my money however I want". Dr. agreed. I am at my wits end. HELP!
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unfortunately and fortunately we can not control nor expect our friends to do things say things the way we want them to, no more than they can control us.
all we can do is accept our friends for who and what they are or move on out of the friendships where we feel the friend is not being safe or what ever.
question to think about... if the situation were reversed. you were seeking treatments and such and your friends came to you and told you, you need to stop, this is a scam and so forth what would you do..
me and my friends I would tell them something like this is my body and my money and I will do what I want with them, why because my friends don't have the right to control who and what I am and what I do. here in America everyone including the mentally and handicapped have rights to live their life the way they want to, in what ever ways they want to. if we want to seek out magic non existant pills for our problems we may do so. if we as human beings and americans buy into scams and what not that's our choice.
my suggestion is that you look at your choices...
1. except your friend for how ever and who ever they are with unconditional caring and let them take care of their self
2, since this friendship seems to be bringing you great distress you may decide for yourself that you cant accept this friend unconditionally and leave the friendship behind.
Those are the basic options that comes with any kind of friendship / relationships.
in some friendships / relationships I have chosen to accept that friend unconditionally and in other friendships / relationships where their actions were impacting my own life I have left the friendships/ relationships behind because I have and had enough to deal with, with out their drama and behaviors.
Im sorry we cant tell you what to do for yourself in this situation, we each make our own choices good or bad, your friend has made their choices and now you need to make your own choices of whether you stay in the friendship and accept them as is or you move on out of the friendship. that's all any of us can do.