I don't know if I am reading the situation correctly, but often what happens is this:
We share our problem with a friend.
They say something like 'buck up! Things are not that bad!'
We point out that things are exactly that bad.
They get angry because they feel we are not trying hard enough, making excuses, wallowing in self pity, being negative etc etc.

The fact is we are doing our best, but some situations are genuinely out of our control. There is no solution and we don't need false hope. We just need a sympathetic ear and some validation. But that sort of non-judgemental listening is a rare talent. Today's culture is all about dynamism and getting results. Negative emotions are expected to be brushed under the carpet.
How to deal with such unhelpful responses? You may try telling your friends that you are not looking for a solution or encouragement. Just saying 'yes, I acknowledge that times are tough but you are doing your best' would be fine. Following it with a hug would be even better. If they are good friends they will definitely understand your needs.