I understand.Usually in relationships I am the one who gets manipulated. I give too much but think that someday they will return the favour back,if I need it.There is a cousin who said he would die for me if he had to.He adored me that much and among the extended family of dozens of cousins he swore I was his favourite. I believed him and gave ,gave and gave.I asked recently for a small favour for the first time and guess what?????He literally stopped talking to me.LOL.