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Old Nov 22, 2019, 04:58 PM
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But I think if you had said something more about it, that would actually have been a reason for him to not do it. If that makes sense. He's doing it on his own terms after establishing that he won't do it just because you ask. That is actually different than if he had just done it to begin with, or if there had been further discussion about it and he had started doing it in response to that. He has had his say, so he has asserted himself and can do whatever without feeling controlled. So I'm not sure it can be reduced down to implying that he has basically done a 180 - that's not how I see it, anyway. I think lots of times people will make concessions after communicating their reservations.

Basically, what I'm saying is that I wouldn't assume that the reason he is now standing is because he didn't realize it was important before and now he does. Jmo - and I'm only pointing it out because it seems like setting yourself up for disappointment to rationalize his actions as dependent on understanding how important something is to you (not without him telling you that is what happened).
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