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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
Maybe you’re not asking him to do it anymore in a way that makes him feel manipulated, ergo he is doing it. I didn’t get the sense he ever questioned it was important to you, only that he objected to how you asked and how you reacted to his reaction.
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Ah, good point. Like if he didn't do it now, I wouldn't say anything. And when we discussed that conflict recently, he said he was confused by how much it had bothered me, because I hadn't mentioned it before. So, yeah, maybe it wasn't so much that it was an unreasonable request, but how I asked and pushed for it. The fact that I've back off, he's more OK giving it to me. Because I'm not demanding it.
It actually seems similar with email replies since I've been back. I email him less often and have been throwing him softballs, easy things to reply to (he's said this--not the softball part, but that they've all been easy replies).