What I dealt and had been dealing with that is SO TOXIC is my sister insisting "YOU BE A CODEPENDENT OR ELSE YOU WILL BE PUNISHED!!".

My older brother really tried to help me get what I needed and he showed me respect. My sister had a policeman there and my brother had to go out and tell this policeman that my sister needed to be stopped from harrassing me. Three times he had to go out and ask the policeman to tell her to "back off".

If my brother was not there it would have been REALLY BAD. It was bad even with him there. My husband was at a loss as usual, it was so embarrassing to have him see what he saw. My sister triggered me so badly I ended up becoming that frightened little child shaking uncontrollably. I did not want to have that happen, but she would not leave me alone. My sister takes all her anger out on me, she did that when I was so little too, before I had any ability to understand or even defend myself.

My sister doesn't know how to play nice, she always had to have all the control or else she would not play with you. How is a baby to understand that? She is four years older, that is a huge age difference when it comes to children all through their childhood.