Hi Eleny,


Nice to meet you.


I wanted to say that generally - EVERYONE - has obsessive thoughts in relationships. In other words - one does not have to be diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder in order to have obsessive thoughts while in love. It is quite natural. The difference is in the FREQUENCY of the behavior that can result from those thoughts. Why do I say frequency? Because everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone makes a lot of mistakes. When one makes a lot of mistakes it becomes a pattern of behavior, and rather than being blamed on merely, "being human," it can be then blamed on the person and their personality and is thus deemed, pathological. Pathological patterns of behavior are considered the foundation for diagnosis.


But diagnosis is a sham.


Lol.


Borderline Personality Disorder is a condition that arises as a result of trauma. It is a part of the human condition. Please do not be do hard on yourself and don't think too much about this diagnosis. It is overrated! You are a lovely human being and if you have obsessive thoughts, it is okay! As long as your behavior remains in check and you don't do anything illegal! Who cares! Be you! Be free and allow yourself you be yourself - even if you happen to fit the criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder (Which is actually Complex PTSD = which is a result of trauma.

Wouldn't making a pattern of mistakes suggest that someone enjoys it? Or begins to enjoy it?

As far as the bold goes:

You are never wrong in having feelings or thoughts! Thoughts and feelings are NOT a reflection of who you are - they just are. You have to validate your own experiences as a part of being human.

Have a good day.


Thanks,

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