After awhile, my T would occasionally tell me where she was going; to a wedding in Bangkok or to visit friends in North Carolina, back to her home country (Philippines), etc. and it got to be nice, once I was sort of use to her actually "being" somewhere (instead of just disappearing), like your being able to consider whether your T's flying or not but not wanting to know. The little bit of curiosity grew and that helped my T have an actual "place" all the time and to quit winking in and out of existence like magic. It was still painful, especially when she went out of the U.S. but I'd do daft things like look up the weather in Manilla or where ever each day and be glad when it was sunny or raining on her since she still deserved rain for leaving me :-)