I grew up with people who had command hallucinations. They are dangerous and must be treated. Yes, you want to get your wife the best care possible. That's natural. But your primary responsibility is the safety of your children. Children cannot take care of themselves and are 100% dependent on adults to do it for them. If you even have a inkling that your wife is a danger to your children, get her admitted and protect your babies. No one else is going to. Psychiatrists are there to treat your wife. All your children have right now is you. I'm speaking from very personal experience.