It sure isn't like those chick flicks.

My ex refused to buy me chocolate on Valentine's Day because he said chocolate was fattening. I didn't even have a weight problem! Some men don't know how to show their love.

When I started dating again after my divorce, I got really sick of men. It seemed like they all only wanted one thing. Worse yet, having a child made it that much harder. Not only did I want to find someone compatible with me, I needed someone who could be compatible with my son. I needed to know my son would be safe. I wasn't about to sacrifice my child for ANY man.

I had some really dark years there. My best friend (since we were toddlers) was diagnosed with 4th stage cancer (Hodgkin's disease). Three months after her death, my father was diagnosed with lung cancer, and mom's health was poor too. I was their sole caregiver.

I kept dreaming of a better life, one with a good companion to share my life with. I felt like I was all alone and living in Hell.

I was talking with my best friend's sister one day, and to my surprise she told me my best friend was very envious of me. For the life of me, I couldn't understand why. She said "because you have a good job, a beautiful apartment, and a great kid - because you have it all."

It changed my perspective about life. No one is guaranteed they will find their "soul mate" or love of their life. MANY don't. I looked at my life and realized it WAS pretty good. At that point, I gave up on men altogether and began enjoying my life - until my husband came along and spoiled it all.

You really don't have it that bad. He may not be the love of your life, but he sounds like a best friend to you. Maybe if you started treating him like a best friend, he'll start to view you that way. Men care a lot about their best friends, and don't like to let them down. When he realizes intimacy is important to his "best friend," maybe he'll be a little more attentive - maybe not.

Ummmm, just don't go the route of a friend of mine. She tried to make her husband jealous by sending herself flowers with a romantic note. She thought it would spark up her marriage. Instead, she got a call while she was at work from her neighbor saying her husband was tearing apart the garbage at the curb looking for the name of the florist. He then went to the florist and demanded to know who sent the flowers. Boy was SHE embarrassed!