I think people made the comments above because it sounds like you are still interested in your ex and want to know what's going on with her. I think many psychs do just that, they often seem to think that validating the client's feelings is one of their their primary jobs. I personally don't see unprofessionalism in your description. Maybe lack of competence, but if your ex doesn't tell her providers the full range of her issues, what can be expected of them in terms of helping? If your ex wants to spend her money on that, it is her choice. Same if she does not acknowledge her issues and doesn't want to truly change, more to just hear she is mostly okay.