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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Of course we get angry and feel resentful when we are treated poorly! That’s a normal reaction. We are angry because someone intentionally hurt us. Shame on them, not on us!
There are some people who can’t stand criticism no matter how you approach it. They will deny and lash out over their own abusive behavior.
I was always open to my own wrong doings and wanted to improve. I went to therapy to try to learn how to get along in these difficult relationships.
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Yes, I have understand this.
Maybe there has been some obsessing over: "Could I be wrong?" instead of just trusting ourselves?
In my case, that I am very indecisive and see two sides to everything plus change my mind all of the time made it so hard to sort through conflicts and see them clearly. My anxiety/fear response clouded my reason plus I fell for a lot of guilt tripping which came from all sides. It drove me to madness but with my meds and because I am learning to trust in myself and God better, my judgement is better now. Tisha, your therapy seems to be seeking spiritual guidance, curiousity about how everything works plus learning to trust that you are enough. In my case, the need to please others made me devalue my own good judgement. The obsessive thinking was about attempting to reconcile what others said with what I felt. Huge mismatch.