I wonder if more consideration should be given to the fact that he works in a funeral home.

Success in his work requires a professional detachment from death. He might have a sense of professional pride on that.

He says he loves you and I gather that he is a caring person. I think that counts for a lot. It shows that he cares about you.

Maybe he THINKS he wouldn’t care if you died, but he might be wrong about that!

My suggestion is to explore with him further what he means, and how it connects with his work. I would suggest doing that when you and he are calm. I see such discussions as a nonjudgmental effort to understand better what he means, and what you mean to him.

I’m betting that you mean a lot to him.