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Originally Posted by TunedOut
Yes, I have understand this. 
Maybe there has been some obsessing over: "Could I be wrong?" instead of just trusting ourselves?
In my case, that I am very indecisive and see two sides to everything plus change my mind all of the time made it so hard to sort through conflicts and see them clearly. My anxiety/fear response clouded my reason plus I fell for a lot of guilt tripping which came from all sides. It drove me to madness but with my meds and because I am learning to trust in myself and God better, my judgement is better now. Tisha, your therapy seems to be seeking spiritual guidance, curiousity about how everything works plus learning to trust that you are enough. In my case, the need to please others made me devalue my own good judgement. The obsessive thinking was about attempting to reconcile what others said with what I felt. Huge mismatch. |
The nice thing about my ruminating is that I’ve looked at it from every possible POV.
. How am I wrong? How does the other person see it? How does the lamp see it?
Ultimately, I do trust in myself.
Abusers will gaslight us and convince us to devalue our own good judgment. That little voice in me that tells me something is wrong and gives me a warning has never been wrong. I’ve never once been sorry for having listened to my gut. Plus, I’ve asked many other close people their thoughts on things to make sure I’m not over reacting. When they all tell me I am making perfect sense, I feel confident. But, I’ve made several choices of action that didn’t turn out with the outcome I wanted. Sometimes, no matter what you do, you’ll come out with a bad outcome. You go back and think ‘could I have done something differently to make it go better?’ And no, it wouldn’t have mattered. That’s where spirituality comes in. Maybe it’s beyond our control and we are just destined to go through some good and bad things.
Please forgive me for getting off your topic, Fuzzy.