Tho I agree with Bill that he is saying some things he doesnt mean, he knows that is no way to talk to a woman who is also his wife. He knows you are young and sensitive, so hounding you about vegetables and speaking to you in an insensitive way are just immature and stupid,because doing so can damage your relationship. Despite the fact that he works w dead people, that was an insensitive remark. He has to live in the real world where you dont say that to people you care about. Dragging a stupid generalization which has a different meaning into the conversation was game playing.
Maybe he can talk in that way to other guys, but that’s no way to talk to a young wife. Perhaps an older family member or more mature friend can talk to him about keeping the romance in his marriage.
Basically,he sounds pretty insensitive However,the part he got right is that ,at least by the time you are middle aged, you really should start scarfing down the veggies, (do you like salad?how about tomatoes and cukes w cider vinegar,salt and pepper, etc???)because many people who dont eat right do pay with health problems and start to fall apart. They are now recommending that half the plate be assigned to fruits and vegetables. Who cooks? Maybe he’s worried about what you are serving HIM? Men do often die earlier and he sees all these dead men all the time. Wow, this is making me hungry LOL Good luck sweetie.!