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Old Nov 24, 2019, 09:31 PM
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Originally Posted by whatever2013 View Post
I had a quiet day with my dog. It's funny how my feelings evolve. At the moment i can't understand why i reacted in such anger yesterday when my friend cancelled on me. Truth be told, i didn't want to go to the hockey game either. I feel too weak and frail to go anywhere much less a rambunctious sports event several hours long with public transit both ways. I bought the tickets in September when i was manic and had no insight that i would ever come down. The money was already spent. I could have just written it all off to a bipolar SNAFU, making plans too far in advance. I wish i'd told my friend that it was fine, that i wasn't feeling well anyways and wished her a nice dinner.


Instead, i flew off the handle and ruined the rest of my day and parts of today. It's not really the question of bottling my anger up or of expressing it. It's a question of why did i get angry in the first place? I didn't want to go to the game and here was a golden opportunity to get out of it . . . . Why didn't i just say, whatever, and bow out peacefully?


I wonder if it's about my own fear and pain of rejection . . . . Very sensitive to rejection. Overly so. Unreasonably so. Irrationally so. Probably due to my divorce, i guess. The devastating global rejection by my ex-husband.


Well, i certainly was the source of my own misery in this incident. Thing is, i'm not feeling that bad, moodwise. I'm not manic and i'm not depressed so it's a mystery to me why i would have such an extreme reaction . . . . Maybe my mood is lower than i realize. I overate yesterday and today and slept-in 90 minutes today . . . . Perhaps i *am* depressed or well on my way there???


As you have looked back at your day yesterday and are actually able to see that your reaction was over the top. It’s possible that your dealing with more of a bpd reaction/symptom in this situation.

It happens .... there are many ways to learn to how to stop a reaction and look at it from a different angle and decompress the over the top feelings with out it destroying a whole day

Just a thought
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