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Originally Posted by Dogsandnugs
Thanks everyone so much for the responses, it means a lot! He has been acting the same as usual today, if not a little nicer, offering to take me out to a movie and going along with what I’ve wanted to do all day. He has stood by what he said which really hurts, but I’m trying to forget it. To those that asked if this is the first time he’s said hurtful things, it’s not. He’s called me worthless, a child, a pain in the ***, and a number of other things in the past, but he’s always apologized for it shortly after so that has been the difference so far. It’s hard feeling like it doesn’t matter if I’m around or not, especially because I have dealt with suicidal thoughts in the past and this has brought that back up. I’m trying to go back to normal though. Thanks everyone for the advice, I will continue to update.
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Sweetheart these are not red flags. These are humungus, astounding, glowing crimson flags. Your husband is a jerk, pardon my language. Are you looking for ways to condone his behaviour and/or trying to hold yourself responsible for them? You have already suffered damage at his hands. Please start packing your bags. Is it physically safe for you to leave him? Do you have someone to help you? Can you stay with friends or family temporarily? In my experience, as time will progress his bad behaviour will escalate and the apologies will diminish until you are trapped in a cage of abuse. Take charge of your life now.