Hello, I am 23 and my husband is 24, we’ve been married for less than a year, and last night he said some things that I don’t think I’ll ever be able to forget.

So, to preface this, I guess I should say I’m not a healthy eater and that’s what started this conversation. My husband started saying that because I don’t eat enough vegetables that I’m gonna die soon. He said this very non-chalantly and of course I got upset. He started asking why I was so upset and I said “because it sounds like you wouldn’t even care if I died” and he said “so what?” . Of course I started bawling and he asked again what was wrong with him saying that, why did it matter what he thought, and I said i couldn’t believe he just said that and asked him to leave me alone. He said “just so you know, I wouldn’t care if anyone died, not just you”. He insisted that I’m crazy for thinking that’s a problem and that it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me. I couldn’t stop crying and he threatened to get up and leave me if I didn’t stop.

I guess I’m here because I’m wondering if this is normal and what I should do?? He works at a funeral home so I’m not sure if this has desensitized him to death? This happened last night and he is still defending and standing behind everything he said today and I just don’t know what to do. He’s treating me exactly the same in every other way. I’m so lost and hurt that I mean so little to him.