IMHO one issue like this is not a reason to throw away an entire relationship - at least until you've explored it more. Men can be asses. I know this all too well because I was a complete *** in the past. Here are things I said to my wife: "Maybe you should go to the gym to lose weight", "Your boobs are too small and you should get a boob job", "You shouldn't become a teacher", "You shouldn't do an ironman" and several other terrible things.

How do I know these things are hurtful now and that I was an enormous self-centered jerk? Because she said she wanted to separate in August. However, after much discussion, we decided to stay together and things are great now. I recognize how wrong my actions were and have turned my personality around 180 degrees. I'm blessed she has stayed. I'm the luckiest guy in the world.

Why? Because of communication. We are now brutally honest with each other. We used to be scared to be completely honest and share what we were truly thinking as it might cause the other person to leave. However, we've now found the opposite. By being brutally honest we know exactly what the other person is thinking and we have the opportunity to discuss it - good or bad. We also found that neither one of us were seeing the forest through the trees. There were often bigger pictures to problems we had, but we'd only see the problem right in front of us. I would suggest exploring this issue you're having with your husband further and see why he doesn't care if anyone dies. Non-confrontational (i.e. don't yell - just discuss) and bi-directional communication is one of the best ways to sustain a long term relationship and marriage in my humble opinion.